Each client who sits with me for a psychic reading wishes for one thing above all. Often, it’s for a loving partner, a satisfying job, a feeling of fulfillment, happiness, health, a baby, or justice.
Sometimes people ask me, "Do you see my heart's desire, Derek? Is it in the cards?"
I couldn't in good conscience play The Ruler of Your Destiny. But I am willing to play the Muse.
In sharing what I see when I read for a client, I'm respectful that my ideas may carry influence. I'm careful to be practical, yet innovative as I conjure my visions. Sometimes I imagine sprinkling a little pixie dust on my client before she heads out the door.
A woman in her thirties came to see me. She'd been single for some time. She was anxious about her relationship status. The idea of a lover is enigmatic to her. Privately, she felt flawed.
To cover all this up, she unduly poured herself into her job. Slowly, she drifted into a critical stance towards men. She's disheartened by the chasm that exists between her dream of life, and the actual life she's living.
She fired her questions at me as if she were a machine gun: "Don't you see children? When do you see marriage for me? I want to get married."
What I see is not a wedding gown, but a cloak of desperation. Most desirable men would run away from her in this state.
I do see a man for her, but he doesn't want to get married. He wants to commune, and to laugh. He wants to (simply) meet a contented, happy woman; a woman who feels she is more than enough for herself. She can be vulnerable and irascible and imperfect in a million ways, but her chances for love would improve if she were a lover of her own life.
To love the life that has unfolded for us can sometimes be a challenge.
Intuitively, she knows there is nothing wrong with her. It's just that she's not emotionally in the space for a relationship right now. This doesn't mean that fate won't bestow her with the blessing of love.
For the rest of the hour I help her to take off that cloak. I offer her a different outfit. I help her to smile at what she has going for her. Her spirit shifts. A few more details come through about that man.
A client recently said to me, "Derek, you first read for me two years ago. I so enjoyed that reading that I referred my sister to you.
"You told her you envisioned her meeting a man 'who wasn't quite American', that she would 'travel extensively, even live abroad'. She was down on her luck about love at that time, and completely without money. She couldn't imagine herself with a foreigner, or traveling abroad. After her reading, she called me, all angry: 'Why did you refer me to him? What a waste of money!' At the time, I felt bad.
"Well, it turns out that she met this guy who has a green card but was born in Canada. He has a place in France that she's been to a few times. They've been going pretty strong..."
I can't remember this reading. But if I shared such a specific vision with that client, I must have detected an element of naivete in her. She may have been entrenched in a narrow belief about her prospects, but she must not have been too sullen about it.
I am always aware of my client's doubts in my readings. The element of doubt might be seen as two parts uncertainty, and one part hope. That hope tempers the uncertainty a lot.
As you consider the promise of the year ahead, rather than ask, "What will this year bring?" Ask instead, "What will I bring to this year?"
The dreams we have for our lives aren't possessions. They're graces. We have no rights to them. Given that, apparently, we cannot simply trade gratitude or hard work for them, the next best thing to do is to live as fully, and as playfully, as we possibly can, without expectations.
Below are some thoughts and affirmations that you might find helpful to say to yourself in the coming year. I wish you a breakthrough in your greatest dream.
Affirmations for Personal Peace and Spiritual Happiness:
I make room in my plans for wonderful surprises.
I accept the cards I've been dealt in life.
I'm willing to change the game if it's not playing well for me.
I harmonize with the notes sung by my friends and family.
I choose not to engage in negativity and fear mongering.
I am grateful for, and aware of, my blessings.
I have learned from my mistakes, and am forgiving of myself.
I love life's mysteries!
I notice that when I look for humor, I find it!
I am patient with myself regarding the changes I want to make.
Anything great can happen, and anything great will!